Spoiler alert: we’re going to be talking fluids in this post. If you’re easily squeamish about things that gush, consider yourself warned ;)

So, recently I saw this post pop up in our Pompoir reddit community:

This user shared that after taking her vaginal gymnastics workouts more seriously, she finally managed to achieve the ever-elusive squirting orgasm.

This didn’t necessarily surprise me.

Over the years, I’ve received several emails from women saying something similar: that after training consistently with our program, squirting became a regular part of their sex lives—even if it had never happened before.

But as I was typing my excited reply to u/No-Sherbet4318’s post, I suddenly paused.

Why exactly is it that squirting becomes easier when we gain control over our pelvic floor muscles?

In this post, I’m going to attempt to answer this question.

Now, be warned: Like many things related to sex, what follows is part science, part theory, part “we need more funding.”

Until we have a proper Sex Lab, a lot of these ideas will remain educated guesses at best.

But give me time. 

If there’s one good thing about having the energy of an 8-year-old while being wildly fascinated by sex (creepy combo, I know) is that if I can envision a Sex Lab, I will work with relentless optimism and unfounded confidence to make it happen.

But until then, we’ll have to stick to anecdotal experience, the science we do have, and practical advice based on what fellow students have stated. 

So, goddess… let’s talk squirting. 

What is squirting (and is it just pee)?

Squirting is the involuntary release of fluid from the female urethra as a response to intense intravaginal pleasure or orgasm. The term is often used interchangeably with female ejaculation, although some authors make the distinction that female ejaculation includes the expulsion of a white, milky substance from the Skene’s Glands, located on either side of the urethra.

While both squirting and female ejaculation happen as a response of sexual pleasure, they seem to differ in quantity and consistency. 

Squirting originates from the bladder: it’s watery and thin, and is released at a higher volume than female ejaculate. This is often depicted in porn as the gushing expulsion of tens to hundreds of millimeters of liquid from the urethra. But according to the limited research we have, these “soaking the bed” experiences are more rare than female ejaculation, and only happen to about 5% of women. 

Female ejaculation, on the other hand, originates from the paraurethral or Skene’s glands, is thick and white, and is generally expelled at a much lower volume (up to 1 ml). However, it is estimated that it may happen for up to 54% of women.

While more research is needed to accurately differentiate between the two types of fluid, we do know for a fact that neither of them are the same as vaginal lubrication, which originates in the vaginal walls as a response to arousal, and allows for comfortable penetration.

Now, for the million dollar question.

Is squirting pee? Squirting, as in, the abundant expulsion of liquid that some women may experience as a response to orgasm seems to be a form of highly diluted urine, yes. In most cases it is odorless and colorless, and it is often accompanied by prostatic secretions (female ejaculate).

Now, does this mean that you should ever feel embarrassed if squirting occurs?

Absolutely not. 

While scientists are still unsure about why exactly squirting occurs, we do know that it has nothing to do with something being “wrong” with your body.

It simply appears to be a natural response to creating friction against your bladder and urethra, accompanied by a relaxation of your pelvic floor muscles that allows for the fluid to come out. 

What’s more – it is very likely that if it happens during sex, your partner is going to love it.

Are you kidding? Squirting is a clear sign that your partner is doing something right. There’s a reason why squirting videos are so insanely popular online. 

The term “how to make a girl squirt” has 11,000 searches a month in the US alone.

Squirting is hot. Period. 

We might need to spend some time in therapy to understand why. But it just is.

So with that in mind…

…can you teach yourself to squirt?

The Mechanisms of Squirting

What is the Skene’s Gland?

So what’s actually happening inside our bodies when we squirt?

While the bladder is the main source of the fluid released during squirting, that’s not the whole story. Right near your urethra live your Skene’s glands—also called the “female prostate”—and they play a very interesting role.

These tiny glands are located on either side of the urethral opening and produce a milky, white fluid rich in prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP). While their secretions are minimal compared to the bladder's contribution in a full-blown squirt, they are part of what gives the expelled liquid its unique profile—distinct from both pee and standard lubrication.

In some women, stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall (think: G-spot area) triggers these glands to release fluid. But for the fluid to actually come out, your pelvic floor muscles need to relax enough to allow expulsion—like opening the floodgates after the storm.

As you can see, this is a team effort: the bladder, the Skene’s glands, and a highly coordinated pelvic floor.

The Squirting Orgasm

Does Squirting Mean The Orgasm Is Stronger?

You might think squirting = a more powerful orgasm. But that’s not necessarily the case.
However, it often feels like it is, because a squirting orgasm involves more of your body. 

Many women report that when they squirt, the orgasm feels more full-bodied, more intense, more animal. And there’s a good reason for that.

Remember: squirting is essentially a reflex. Your bladder fills, the area gets stimulated, your pelvic floor releases, and bam—out it comes. It’s not that the orgasm itself is “better” in a clinical sense… it’s that your entire pelvic region is activated, your nervous system is firing, and your body is doing something undeniably powerful… and visible.

(This is why men think that if you squirt, it means that you’re having a particularly incredible time… they are visual creatures after all).

Interestingly enough though, not all squirting happens with orgasm. It can happen during arousal, without orgasm, or after.

But when they do coincide, yeah… it makes sense that it will feel pretty heavenly. 

Why Pelvic Floor Control Changes Everything

A.k.a. The Best Advice on How to Squirt

Here’s where things get really cool and nerdy (because when have those two words not gone together in this blog?).

In a 1981 study published in the Journal of Sex Research, researchers evaluated 47 women and found that those who ejaculated during orgasm had significantly stronger pelvic floor muscles than those who didn’t.

So what’s going on there?

One theory is simple: a strong pelvic floor means better circulation, better nerve signaling, and more control — all of which make you more responsive to internal stimulation and more likely to experience the pressure buildup required for fluid release.

But here’s the nuance that often gets missed: it’s not just about strength. It’s about coordination.

In other words: you can be as strong as you want, but if your body doesn’t release that tension during orgasm, it won’t allow the fluid to go through. And this is true for lubrication, female ejaculate, or a full-blown squirt.

This is one of the many reasons why strength is not our only focus in vaginal gymnastics.

Through our step-by-step program, we don’t just teach you how to build your pelvic floor muscles – we teach you how to make them functional. And part of that functionality means mastering delicious flexibility and coordination.

It’s not just a muscle group for locking things in; it’s a dynamic system of tension and surrender.

So when you combine:

• more blood flow (which increases arousal),
  
  
• more sensitivity (from consistent stimulation), and
  
  
• finely tuned muscular control (aka pelvic floor coordination),
  
  

…you get the perfect internal environment for female ejaculation and squirting to happen more easily — and way more often.

In short? You don’t just become wetter. You become more expressive. Your pleasure doesn’t just stay in your body — it literally flows out of you.

And let’s be honest… that’s hot.

One of our dear students Stacie puts it beautifully: “my favorite exercise is ‘releasing’, because it allows me to put all my hard-earned tightness and wetness on display for things to be really pleasurable for both me and my partner”

How to Squirt: Best Tips and Techniques

How to Make Yourself Squirt

Okay, so let’s put you in the best metaphorical position to make yourself squirt. 

1. Start with G-spot stimulation 
   Insert your fingers inside of you, and curve them towards your belly button. Try to look for that "walnut texture” – that’s where your G-spot will most reliably be found. You can also use a toy for this.
   You want to apply rhythmic, consistent pressure.
   
   
2. Breathe and relax
   As you start touching yourself, do your best to keep your breath relaxed and fully give yourself into the moment. Don’t clench your abs, and let your belly go soft.
   
   
3. Add vaginal gymnastics
   Incorporate light contractions and relaxations during stimulation.
   Think “grip, release, grip, release.”
   
   
4. Try the “bearing down” technique
   Experiment with allowing your pelvic floor muscles to fully relax around your fingers or your toy, and feel that texture. Almost like the natural flow of a jellyfish moving through the water – opening up and then propulsing again.
   The “opening up” part is your release mechanism – it shouldn’t feel like a push, but a gentle relaxation.
   
   
5. When you feel yourself close to orgasm, fully let go.
   As your heart starts racing and your body starts clenching in that series of involuntary spasms, remind yourself to let go. Allow that wave of pleasure to move through you, and let your muscles release. If you feel the need to pee, don’t hold it. Release, release, release.
   
   Note: remember, yes. Urine is involved in squirting. So the feeling of peeing is a staple of this whole process. If that embarrasses you, hydration is your best friend.

Two more points on this:

The first is, stay hydrated. Squirting requires fluid. And if you want the urine part of it to be as diluted as possible, the more water you drink, the less it will feel like pee. Simple, but underrated.

And second, don’t overthink it. You’re not trying to prove anything – you’re simply exploring what your body is capable of.

Of course, this works solo or with a partner. Just communicate clearly— and make sure towels are part of the discussion.

How to Squirt During Sex

Once you’ve experimented solo and have a feel for what works, bring it into partnered play.

Here’s how to set the stage:

• Communicate. If this is something new you want to experiment with, it’s a good idea to let your partner know – not because you need anyone’s approval to squirt, obviously, but because they might not be aware of what your personal feelings about it are and they’ll appreciate you letting them know about what you’re trying to accomplish.
  
  
• Positioning is everything. Think missionary with legs over the shoulders, or doggy with a pillow under your hips to angle the pelvis. Anything that applies pressure to the G-spot area.
  
  
• Add stimulation. Have your partner use fingers or a toy during penetrative sex.
  
  
• Train beforehand. The more pelvic floor awareness you have before sex, the more reflexive the response becomes during sex.
  
  
• Let go. Emotionally and physically. You’ll find out very soon that the barriers to squirting are as mental as they are physical – the fear of embarrassment or making a mess might just be the only thing standing in the way of your muscles fully letting go.

Just so we’re clear: not every session has to be a squirt-fest. But with the right pressure + coordination + surrender? You just might soak the sheets.

Can All Women Squirt?

What if you try all the above steps and you’re still not able to squirt?

It’s possible that your muscles might need some more training, especially in the coordination and flexibility departments – for that, our program has you covered.

But even with that out of the way, it’s important to understand: some women are simply, genetically better primed for squirting than others. And that’s okay.

Squirting is cool—but it’s not the holy grail of female pleasure. You don’t need to squirt to be sexual, powerful, or orgasmic. If anything, it’s just one more way your body might express joy. Not a requirement or a scoreboard.

What matters is that you know your body, and that you continue to explore all the incredible things it can do.

(Like twisting with your vaginal muscles… just sayin’)

And if it ever starts making waterfalls?

Well, lucky you.