We’ve all heard the notion that “most women can’t orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone”. And yes, science does support this: clitoral stimulation is the most effective strategy to achieve female orgasm – at least consistently.

But “consistently” is an important distinction.

Because these studies don’t show that vaginal orgasms are impossible—just that clitoral stimulation is the more reliable route.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not here to discredit clitoral orgasms.
I’m a big fan of the C-spot. 10 out of 10 stars. Would orgasm again. 

But it does beg the question:

What are the women who orgasm from penetration doing that the rest of us aren’t?

Because here’s what I keep seeing in my community of hundreds of thousands of women: 

Once a woman starts experiencing intra-vaginal orgasms, they often become her absolute favorite kind.

Especially one in particular.

A type of orgasm that seems to be connected to the elusive vagus nerve.
One that’s often described as soul-level, spiritual, even out-of-body.

You ready?

Let’s go deep (ha...).

What is a Cervical Orgasm, Anyway?

I was having a conversation about orgasms with a friend of mine—who also happens to be a student in our vaginal gymnastics course—and she dropped the most accurate analogy I’ve ever heard for the “Big 3” orgasms:

“Clitoral orgasms are fast and furious. G-spot orgasms are like a wave of release. But cervical orgasms are like floating out of your body on some Ayahuasca shit. You’ll cry uncontrollably and come back a better person afterwards.” 

I love this description, because it perfectly encapsulates what many of us experience during this type of climax: euphoria, emotional openness, and a kind of deep surrender – like a spiritual experience that leaves you transformed.

But what is actually going on here?

Fun fact: it isn’t your cervix.

At least, not exactly.

It’s a specific region called the anterior fornix—commonly referred to as the A-spot—a sensitive zone on the deep upper wall of the vaginal canal, just before the cervix.



This area is typically stimulated during deep penetration at an upward angle (toward your belly button). Some positions that help you reach it include:

• Missionary with your hips elevated
• Doggy style with your chest down
• On your back with your legs on both sides of his shoulders
• Prone Bone with a pillow underneath your hips

The reason the A-spot can feel so intensely pleasurable—in a way that’s completely different from clitoral or even G-spot orgasms—has everything to do with how your body is wired.

Most of the sensations you’re used to—like the sharp, spark-like bursts of a clitoral orgasm—are carried through the pudendal nerve, which relays messages quickly to your brain via the spinal cord. These orgasms feel localized, physical, and fast.

But the A-spot, located deep on the anterior wall just before the cervix, is innervated by a different route: the pelvic, hypogastric, and vagus nerves—and the vagus nerve is where things get especially interesting.

Unlike other nerves, the vagus nerve bypasses the spinal cord entirely, connecting the cervix and uterus directly to the brainstem and emotional processing centers like the amygdala and hypothalamus.



This means that stimulation here doesn’t just register as touch—it registers as emotion, release, connection.

That’s why cervical or A-spot orgasms are often described as:

• Spiritual
  
  
• Full-body
  
  
• Emotional
  
  
• Like “melting” or “floating” or “opening”
  
  

Some women cry. Some laugh. Some lie there in stunned silence. But almost all who experience them say the same thing: “I didn’t know I could feel that much.”

Want proof? A 2004 study by Komisaruk and colleagues found that women with complete spinal cord injury were still able to achieve vaginal-cervical orgasms—because of the vagus nerve.

That’s how powerful this connection is.

If you want a quick visual:

The vagus nerve is the longest cranial nerve in your body—and your emotional superhighway. It carries signals from your gut, heart, lungs, uterus, and cervix up to your brain, and back again.

It’s the reason you get goosebumps during an emotional moment.
It's why you feel things “in your gut.”
And it’s why you might cry after an A-spot orgasm—not from sadness, but from finally letting go.

Why the Cervical Orgasm Can Be Elusive

You might be thinking: “Okay, Bel. I get that A Spot orgasms are amazing. But why aren’t they more common?”.

Or maybe you’re just wondering how you can make them happen for you. No shame in the game – we’ll get there. 

But read this section first. Because understanding why A Spot orgasms have been elusive so far is crucial to make them a staple in your sex menu in the future.

There are three main reasons why you might not experience A Spot orgasms, even when stimulating the right place:

1. Pain
2. Numbness
3. Trauma or Tension

Let’s address each one.

Pain

“It feels painful when he hits my cervix.”

If deep penetration has ever felt painful to you, the idea of orgasming from it probably sounds about as far-fetched as an intergalactic warlord dumping frozen alien souls into Earth’s volcanoes, only for them to haunt our bodies for eternity (...any Scientologists here?).

But here’s the thing: your vagina is designed for deep penetration. So that kind of pain (we’re talking bad pain, not the Nico-the-masseuse kind that hurts-so-good) usually means something’s off.

In most cases, that “something” is insufficient arousal.

Physiologically, arousal triggers two important things:

1. Lubrication
   
   
2. Elongation (a.k.a. vaginal tenting)
   

If you're not sufficiently lubricated, penetration can feel dry, rigid, and even sharp—especially when pressure is placed on the cervix, which is full of sensitive nerve endings. And if your vagina hasn’t tented—meaning your uterus hasn’t shifted back to make more room—then every thrust can feel like hitting a wall. Literally.

Here’s the kicker: what we call cervical orgasms don’t come from the cervix itself, but from the area just in front of it—the A-spot.

So if your cervix is low, unlubricated, or hasn’t shifted into that tented position, it can block access to this pleasure zone entirely.

Important note: Your cervix changes position throughout your cycle. It tends to be lower and firmer during your luteal phase—right before and sometimes during menstruation—so you may find deep penetration more uncomfortable at that time.

So how do we avoid pain and actually access the A-spot?

It starts with deep arousal and ample lubrication.
Yes, external lube can help—but lube alone won’t trigger vaginal tenting.

The better solution? Train your vagina.

Pelvic floor training—like we teach in our vaginal gymnastics program—has been shown to naturally increase lubrication and enhance the body’s arousal response. In other words:

• You get wetter
• You get hornier
• You feel everything more

And because our method is designed to train not just strength, but also flexibility, you’re improving your body’s ability to tent and adapt.

Flexible pelvic floor muscles = deeper penetration without pain.
Which means access to that A-spot… and the kind of orgasms that make you forget your own name.

Numbness

“I don’t really feel much past the entrance”

A lot of women report not really feeling much during penetration. 

And there seems to be two camps: 

• Those who feel the initial thrust, but as they get wetter and sex progresses, they start losing that sensation
  
  
• And those who feel things really strongly at the entrance of the vagina, but not much in the deeper levels.

During a recent workshop I did in Austin (PS: we announce these on Instagram if you want to know when we’re coming to your city!) one of my students who had helped me organize the event said the following:

“Before I started training, I couldn’t tell where exactly my partner was inside of me — now I could pinpoint the exact region in my vagina.”

But why would training your vaginal muscles increase the sensation in your cervix?

Because of a neurological process called cortical remapping. 

You’re not developing new nerve endings – rather, you’re improving the map your brain has of your current nerve endings.

See, the more you train a muscle consistently, the better your brain starts distinguishing all of its tiny regions, and it starts processing sensations there more effectively.

For the vagina, this means that areas which used to feel dull, disconnected, or numb start lighting up – what used to be a blurry black-and-white sketch becomes a full-color, high-definition map of pleasure.

In our program, we teach you several exercises that are specifically designed to increase sensations at the deepest levels of the vaginal canal (a.k.a. where your A-spot can be found). Some of these skills include sucking, pulsing, and fluttering.

Trauma or Tension

“Deep penetration just feels a bit uncomfortable, like it shouldn’t trigger an orgasm.”

Sometimes, it’s not pain.

It’s not even numbness in the physical sense.

It’s just… a feeling that something deeper feels off-limits. Like you’re disconnected from it — or like pleasure somehow doesn’t belong there.

This is often the body’s way of protecting itself.

Trauma — whether physical (like a rough pap smear, birth injury, or surgery), emotional (like shame around sex), or relational (a boundary crossed, even once) — can get stored in the tissues of the pelvic floor. The body adapts by tightening, guarding, and numbing itself to keep you “safe.”

Over time, this can create patterns of chronic tension that live in the muscles around the cervix and deep vaginal canal.

That tension can block sensation, blood flow, and even arousal itself.

And here’s the tricky part: you might not even be aware that it’s happening.
Because tension doesn’t always feel like tightness. Sometimes, it just feels like a vague “meh” where there should be more.

So… how does vaginal training help?

Vaginal gymnastics isn’t just about strength. It’s about awareness.

When you begin to isolate and move different regions of the vaginal canal — and do so slowly, intentionally, with full-body breathing — you start to reestablish a sense of control, presence, and curiosity in an area that might have felt distant or heavy. You’re not just training your muscles. You’re inviting your body to feel safe again.

But let me be clear:

If you suspect you’re carrying trauma in this part of your body — especially if any exercises or penetration feel emotionally triggering — I strongly recommend working with a trained somatic practitioner or sexological bodyworker.

Someone who understands trauma stored in the body and can help you process it in a gentle, respectful way.

Because while vaginal gymnastics can be a powerful tool in your healing, it’s not a replacement for trauma-informed care.

What it can be, though, is a pathway back to presence, safety, and eventually — deep pleasure.

TL;DR: How Training Your Vagina Can Help You Achieve Those Mind-Bending, Spiritual, A-Spot Orgasms

Here’s what we covered:

• Cervical orgasms aren’t technically from the cervix—they come from the A-spot, a region just before the cervix called the anterior fornix.
  
  
• These orgasms feel emotional, spiritual, and full-body because they specifically stimulate the vagus nerve, which links deep sensation to the brain’s emotional processing centers.
  
  
• If penetration feels painful, it’s often due to insufficient arousal. Vaginal training helps by increasing lubrication and triggering vaginal tenting (which makes deep penetration easier and more pleasurable).
  
  
• If deeper sensations feel dull or numb, it may be because your brain hasn’t built a strong map of that area yet. Vaginal training improves this through cortical remapping—aka turning the lights on in a room that’s always been there.
  
  
• If there’s an emotional block or stored trauma, tension in the pelvic floor may be standing between you and orgasm. Vaginal training can help—but so can somatic therapy, sexological bodywork, and emotional safety.
  
  

💫 The takeaway? Your body isn’t broken. Your pleasure potential is always adaptable. And the A-spot might just be the missing key you never knew you had.

A Note for Women with Nerve Damage or Post-Surgical Bodies

If you’ve had a hysterectomy, vaginoplasty, endometriosis surgery, or even a tummy tuck and noticed reduced sensation deeper inside your vagina, you’re not alone—and you are absolutely not broken.

Surgery can impact nerve pathways, muscle tension, and blood flow—especially to areas like the cervix and anterior fornix, which are innervated by multiple nerve branches. That can change the way pleasure is felt.

But here’s the hopeful part:

Pleasure isn’t all-or-nothing.

It’s a spectrum. A conversation. A relationship you can rebuild.

What Can Help:

• Train the surrounding muscles. Even if the deepest nerves are dulled, you can awaken sensation throughout the rest of the canal—and sometimes that lights up new pathways.
  
  
• Increase blood flow. More circulation = more nourishment = better sensation.
  
  
• Use breathwork + visualization. The vagus nerve responds powerfully to intention and imagination.
  
  
• Explore slowly with a partner. If you feel safe, communication and co-regulation can help you map out where pleasure still lives.
  
  
• Layer in healing practices. Scar tissue work, pelvic PT, or gentle touch therapies can support your process.
  
  

Final Thought

You don’t need to do all of this at once.
You don’t need to “achieve” the cervical orgasm tomorrow.

What matters is that you start listening to your body—and letting it know it’s safe to feel.

Whether you’re chasing an A-spot orgasm, or just reconnecting with the idea that you deserve deep pleasure…

Training your vagina is training your agency.

And that is the most powerful orgasm of all.

✨ Curious where to start? Our Vaginal Gymnastics course teaches all the foundations you need—whether you’re a beginner or ready to master the A-spot. Join hundreds of thousands of women reawakening their deepest pleasure.✨